Men will be men

December 27, 2012 by NancyS.Goodman | 9 Comments

One article I found came right and called it what it is “Why women are attracted to Assholes.” Well alrighty then. But the premise still remains the same. Women like men who are dark and dangerous, who seem to live on the edge, because they are perceived to be more masculine, more alive and more fun. Now it seems, that there is actual scientific research to back these facts up.

This is going to sound a little far-fetched, but research has shown that when a woman is ovulating, her hormones influence who she sees will make good potential fathers, and that she picks the sexier, dangerous type. Sounds strange? Yes, but there are studies to back the theory up.

“Previous research has shown in the week near ovulation, women become attracted to sexy, rebellious and handsome men like George Clooney or James Bond,” study researcher Kristina Durante, of The University of Texas at San Antonio, said in a statement. “But until now it was unclear why women would ever think it’s wise to pursue long-term relationships with these kinds of men.”

Now this is where it gets interesting. The women were asked to look at dating profiles of either a sexy man or a reliable man during periods of both high and low fertility.

They were then asked to rate the contribution they would expect each of these men to make should they conceive a child with them. The contribution consisted of shopping, cooking and caring for the child.

When the women was nearer to her ovulation cycle, for some reason, the woman believed that the sexier man would make more of a contribution

“Under the hormonal influence of ovulation, women delude themselves into thinking that the sexy bad boys will become devoted partners and better dads,” Durante said. “When looking at the sexy cad through ovulation goggles, Mr. Wrong looked exactly like Mr. Right.”

Well, to be honest, I don’t know many men, sexy or not who do all of those things. That ‘s a whole lot of deluding going on. I’ve been married 23 years and I’m still waiting…..

A second study was performed where the women met actors who played the roles of sexy cad and reliable dad once during ovulation and again at low fertility. Again, ovulating women thought that the sexy cad — not the reliable dad — would contribute more to childcare. This was only true, however, if they were in a monogamous relationship, which to me, kind of belies the point of being a sexy rogue. They don’t do monogamous.

“When asked about what kind of father the sexy bad boy would make if he were to have children with another woman, women were quick to point out the bad boy’s shortcomings,” said Durante. “But when it came to their own child, ovulating women believed that the charismatic and adventurous cad would be a great father to their kids.”

My feelings? They want to have sex with the sexy guy.

Now another study goes even further. Once you are married, you would figure it would all settle down, right?

Wrong.

At ovulation, women tend to feel the most critical of their dependable, nice guy man and think about the one who “got away”

“A woman evaluates her relationship differently at different times in her cycle, and her evaluation seems to be colored by how sexually attractive she perceives her partner to be,” said Martie Haselton, a professor of psychology and communication studies at UCLA and senior author of the study.

One positive note about the study is that these feelings are fleeting and don’t last past a few days.

So it seems that there really may be a reason why some of us are attracted to bad boys. While most of us don’t get to act upon it, we do the next best thing. We write books about them.

I think that it could be considered a sort of public service.

What do you all think of the these studies and what they have determined?

Sorry, there will be no giveaway of a sexy hunk. But I will leave you with this picture of Hugh Jackman. Sigh…..